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I adopted the biological son of my husband when he was just 17 months old. His birth mother died shortly after he was born, so he has no memory of her and has memories of me from the very beginning. Thus far, we have raised our son as if he is biologically both of ours and all he knows is we are "mommy" and "daddy". However, our son does have casual contact with his birth grandfather. Our son is now 3 years old and we see him becoming more inquisitive about pictures and life things in general. We feel that in the next year or so we will need to introduce the idea that he did not actually grow in mommy's tummy, etc. We feel this is getting especially close because we plan to have a biological child of our own which, of course, will beg a lot of questions for our son. All of the adoption materials I read are so different from our scenario because our son is biologically my husband's and our son does have some contact with the birth family. Going forward, we of course plan to be honest with him, but we then plan to continue to raise him as ours, no different. Has anyone gone through something similar? I feel so alone and need help about how to deal with this, what to say to our son, etc. Thank you :)

CBsMom email: moniquevenable@yahoo.com 11/20/2006 at 0:28 (CT)

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Shel email: shel@iparenting.com 8/28/2006 at 3:23 (CT)

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WAD email: wolfgang5@bk.ru 8/21/2006 at 2:13 (CT)

im 13 and doing a project on adoption and ive read some of the comments on this site. like a women who had a baby and didnt want it! i think you you know whats going to happen when you do something like that. and when the baby will grow up find out that the parents arent her/his biologic parents and then they will want to find out how there real parents are.!!!

chelsea email: chelsea123@yahoo.com 5/1/2006 at 9:03 (CT)

Racheal, I am so thankful for our Anna's first mom. She had much more courage than I could ever have. She thought of her baby and the life she wanted for her and blessed us with a beautiful baby girl. If you feel comfortable with your decision and you feel like it is the best for the baby, then it probably is. We can all wonder, did we do the right thing, in every part of our lives. We just have to do what we feel is right. Do you have contact with the adoptive family? That has helped in our situation.

Martha email: 4/19/2006 at 9:28 (CT)

i chose to give my son up for adoption and i have some people standing behind me and supporting me in the desiscion but i also have alot of people who are saying that i shouldnt have got pregnant if i didnt want him.......was i wrong for doing things the way i did?

Racheal email: forbidden_angel3@yahoo.com 3/30/2006 at 1:39 (CT)

I have been thinking a lot about adoption, but my husband is very against the idea. He thinks that because we have biological children, adding another child that is not blood-related will make that child feel inferior. Is that a rational fear? Thanks!

Shelley email: 12/18/2005 at 19:27 (CT)

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